Why so serious?

2008 October 17
by Simba

The Joker

Sometimes people are complaining that tango dancers are oh so serious. Never smiling or laughing. Relax, and have som fun, why so serious?

For me, I have always had a hard time agreeing on tango being fun. Of course it can be great fun, especially milonga, but not primarily fun. Fun actually has very little to do with it. That is not to say that I do not enjoy tango, on the contrary, I enjoy it very much. But not because it is funny.

I am sometimes tempted to answer that you can never take tango seriously enough 😉 Because tango is more profound. It allows for much more than mere fun. To me, fun is shallow. I can enjoy it for a while, but then I need more. Going to a milonga I expect more. Excitement. Love. Sadness. Joy. Challenge. Friendship. Romance. And fun. And many other things. Sometimes less, sometimes more. Depending on my mood, the music, the women I dance with, their mood, and the amount of fairy dust available at that particular time. At its best tango will let you experience the sublime. At its worst it is not even any fun.

The beginner, of course, is so concentrated on doing things right that he will often forget to have a good time (and to listen to the music). Be patient. We were all once beginners.  Now you should expect more.

That’s why.

2 Responses leave one →
  1. 2008 November 19

    Hi Simba, I think the most important about tango is to feel rewarded about it, whether you feel like you’re serious, melodramatic or fun. As for beginner stage, I have started it long time ago but I still feel like a beginner.

  2. 2008 November 21

    Yes, I agree. I only wanted to point out that it is nothing wrong with not smiling all the time. There is room for more.

    Even for the more experienced, there is always more to learn and something to improve. And that is something I enjoy as well, even if it can be very frustrating at times.

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